Bridesmaids dresses: the 10 do’s and don’ts

Stunning bridesmaids in black

Stunning bridesmaids in black

Selecting bridesmaids dresses and accessorizing them can be one of the most exhausting aspects of planning a wedding. If your bridesmaids are all similar sizes, then the task can be a little easier; but if they are all different body shapes and sizes, it can be quite difficult. Remember that your bridesmaids are there to assist and attend to you on your big day, so be considerate to them.

So how do you choose dresses and accessories that will compliment each girl’s figure, without starting world war 3?

Here are the 10 do’s and don’ts of dressing your bridesmaids:

1. DO select your wedding dress first! YOU are the bride, and it is YOUR day, so your dress comes first.

2. DON’T select bridesmaids dresses that will clash with your wedding dress. The colour and style of the dresses should compliment, not clash, with your dress.

3. DO consult your bridesmaids! Ask them what sort of dress they would feel comfortable in. For example, are they comfortable wearing a sleeveless dress, or thin straps? Do they prefer a short dress or full length dress?

4. DON’T assume that they will just go along with whatever dress you pick out for them.

5. DO ask them to go shopping with you. You may go with just one of them on your first shopping trip, and then once you have narrowed down the selection, take them all so that they can try the dresses on. Of course if distance is a problem, for example, some of the bridesmaids are in different states or countries (it does happen!) then you may need to email photos of the dress or dresses for them to have a look at and give you their feedback.

6. DON’T choose dresses that may be unflattering on some of the girls. Other than you, your bridesmaids will be in the limelight, and no bridesmaid wants to wear a dress that looks dreadful on her. So be considerate when choosing the dress style.

7. DO choose fabrics that compliment your wedding dress fabrics. For example, if your wedding dress is in a flowy chiffon or goergette, then the bridesmaids dresses should be in a similar flowy fabric.  Choosing a contrasting fabric, such as a firm silk or satin, will create a clash in this case.

8. DON’T choose accessories that clash with the dresses. That is, the jewelry and shoes should all compliment each other.

9. DO choose flowers that will compliment their complete ensemble. For example, you may choose flowers that are the same colour tones as the dresses, such as purple dress – pink / purple / cream flowers; or a complimentary but contrasting colour, such as black dress – bold, colourful flowers like the stunning bridesmaids in black, shown above.

10. DON’T forget that your bridesmaids are usually your nearest and dearest friends and / or family members, and you don’t want to ruin any of those relationships in the process!

 What colour and style are your bridesmaids’ dresses? How did you accessorize them?

 

Latest wedding dress trends for 2012

Mermaid wedding gown

Mermaid wedding gown

If you’ve been wedding dress shopping, then no doubt you have realized that there are so many designs to choose from, that it can make your head spin!

Wedding dress designers are always coming up with new and exciting dress designs. Many designers release a new collection every year, but the variations between their designs are usually somewhat subtle. Although mainstream fashion changes every season, bridal fashion changes less frequently. In fact, the notable changes in bridal fashion are silhouette, fabrics and embellishments.

So what are the popular trends in bridal fashion for 2012? There are 8 key trends to look out for:

1. Mermaid gowns: This is where the gown is very fitted down to mid thigh, then flows outwards (as shown on the left). This style is flattering on most figure types, as it elongates the figure.

2. A-line gowns: An A-line gown has a fitted bodice down to the hips, with a slightly full skirt. This is very flattering on most figure types, especially the hourglass and pear shaped figure.

3. Slinky figure-hugging gowns: This type of gown is made from soft and flowy fabrics, which cling and accentuate the figure. Most suitable for the slimmest and tallest girls.

4. One-shoulder gowns: These gowns are fitted at the bodice and have a strap on one shoulder only, creating an asymmetrical look. The strap may be made of fabric or lace, or a combination.

5. Soft flowy romantic gowns: As many couples are opting for beach weddings, designers are offering soft, flowy gowns which are perfect for the beach.

6. Fabrics: Popular fabrics are soft silks, silk satins, chiffons and georgettes. These are quite often combined with subtle embellishments.

7. Lace: Like it or hate it, lace is very popular right now. All-over lace gowns are dramatic and very romantic. Many gowns have sections or inserts of lace, as a feature.

8. Embellishments: The most alluring embellishments use Swarovski crystals and beads. They sparkle and shimmer, and add beauty to wedding gowns.

What is your wedding dress style? Fitted or flowy? Lace or no lace?

 

 

Wedding Talk – the ultimate wedding forum is online now!

I greatly enjoy working with brides, and feel privileged to share general wedding advice.

I have recently teamed up with Wedding Talk, a wedding forum and community, which has just officially launched.

I know there are numerous other forums, but Wedding Talk is more than just a forum, it is a dynamic community. You can upload photos and videos, friend people, create private and public groups, and much more. Imagine sharing your wedding journey with your friends and loved ones.

What’s more, Wedding Talk are offering a major prize of 6 nights accommodation at a luxury resort in an exotic location: either Fiji, Thailand or Bali. Simply sign up for free and share your wedding knowledge for a chance to win. The winner could use this fantastic prize as accommodation for their honeymoon. Or if you are already married, how about an opportunity to celebrate your anniversary at a tropical location!

It’s so simple to join! Just go to www.weddingtalk.com.au and click on the “Join Us Now” button.

I am one of the moderators, so see you there! :)

Planning a wedding… 20 years ago!

Twenty years ago today, I walked down the aisle to marry my beloved. He was and still is, the love of my life. We have three beautiful children together, and many memories; some happy, some not so happy.

As I reflect on the preparations that we made for our wedding day over twenty years ago, many things have changed since then. We live in a very different world today. Back then, there was no Internet, there were no mobile phones and no text messages. To find wedding suppliers, you had to look up the yellow pages or flick through wedding magazines, make lots of phone calls to inquire about store opening hours or make an appointment, and then drive all over town to find just the thing that you were looking for.

Brides of today have everything they need to plan their wedding at their fingertips. All you need to do is Google any product or service that you need for your wedding, and waa-lah! You can find it with ease.

Here is a brief comparison of weddings back then, and now:

Twenty years ago, planning a wedding involved lots of phone calls and driving around to find suppliers. Today you can find loads of information on the Internet and save time driving around.

Twenty years ago, brides wore white on their wedding day. Any other colour was unheard of. Today brides wear the colour of their choice.

Twenty years ago, brides wore veils and ornate headpieces, and wedding gowns had sleeves. Today some brides wear veils and some don’t, headpieces are dainty or subtle, and most wedding gowns are sleeveless or strapless.

Twenty years ago, couples chose yellow gold for their rings. Today many choose white gold.

Twenty years ago, the bridal party consisted of several bridesmaids, a flower girl, several groomsmen, and a page boy. Today this hasn’t changed all that much, although many brides opt for one or two bridesmaids, keeping the bridal party quite small.

Twenty years ago, wedding photos were more like still life photography, where everyone posed and smiled for the camera. Today wedding photography is more like art, where photographers explore their creativity and offer bridal couples a world of creative options for their photos.

Twenty years ago, you could have your wedding recorded on video, with some editing. Today you can have your wedding recorded on DVD, with sound effects, detailed editing and super duper features, such as chapters and highlights of the day.

Twenty years ago, most weddings were quite formal with a church ceremony followed by reception. Today many couples are breaking away from this and opting for a less formal affair, such as a relaxed garden wedding or beach wedding.

Twenty years ago, weddings were very structured and ordered. Today there is still order, but with greater flexibility to be different and make your big day unique.

Twenty years ago, weddings were quite different to today!

What was your wedding day like? Did you have a formal church wedding and reception, or was it a less formal affair? If you’re in the planning stages, what sort of wedding have you planned? :)

 

Bling it on: diamonds, diamonds, diamonds!

If you’ve just become engaged, congratulations! This is the time of year for marriage proposals, and after he pops the question, the next thing to do is to begin wedding planning. One of the first things to organize is engagement and wedding rings. This is your opportunity to have a beautiful bling, oh I mean, ring. :)

Brilliant cut diamond ring

Brilliant cut diamond ring

When selecting an engagement ring, remember that you will be wearing it for the rest of your life, so choose carefully. Diamonds are the most popular choice for engagement rings.

The four things to look for when selecting a diamond are the cut, colour, clarity and carat weight. The cut refers to the facets on the stone, which enable it to reflect light. For a clear diamond, the colour should be as clear as possible, although very few diamonds are truly colourless. Clarity refers to the number and size of inclusions, which are traces of non-crystallized carbon. A diamond free of inclusions is extremely rare and thus very valuable. The weight of the diamond is measured in carats, and each carat is 100 points. For instance, the weight of a 25 point diamond is 0.25 carats, or 1/4 carats.

Emerald cut diamond ring

Emerald cut diamond ring

Diamonds come in different shapes and sizes. The brilliant cut is the most popular, which is a perfect round shape. The princess is cut into a square shape. The emerald is a rectangular shape. The marquise is an oblong shape with pointed ends.

Princess cut diamond ring

Princess cut diamond ring

Other shapes include the pear, oval and heart, for some variety. The pear shaped diamond looks like a teardrop.

Another thing to remember is that the wedding ring will be worn next to your engagement ring, so it needs to fit snugly beside it.  You may consider buying both of your rings at the same time. Many jewelers have engagement and wedding rings available as a set.

What style of rings do you have? Or have selected? And which cut / size is the diamond? Did you choose yellow gold or white gold? I’d love to know! :)

Engagement and wedding ring set

Engagement and wedding ring set

Pear shaped diamond ring

Pear shaped diamond ring

The romance of flowers

Can you imagine a wedding without flowers? What would the bride carry as she walked down the aisle? What about the bridesmaids – what would they carry? At the reception, what would create ambiance and atmosphere?

The answers is flowers, of course. Flowers add more than just colour to your wedding, they add romance, and create an enchanting atmosphere. Flowers can tie your wedding theme together by combining colours and textures, and adding delicate fragrance to the entire day.

Bridal bouquet by www.BunchesDirect.com

Bridal bouquet by www.BunchesDirect.com

When choosing flowers for your wedding, you should keep these three tips in mind:

1. Choose flowers that are in season: Some flowers are available all year around, but some are not. When deciding on flowers, it is wise to select flowers that will be in season at the time of your wedding. For example, roses, singapore orchids and gardenias are available all year around. In the spring and summer, flowers such as frangipanis, lily of the valley, tiger lilies and peonies are in season. In the autumn and winter, flowers such as camelias, azaleas, hyacinths and violets are in season. If you insist on having flowers that are not in season, they will cost you more as they will need to be imported.

2. Choose colours that compliment your wedding colour theme: Flowers come in so many beautiful colours that it can be overwhelming. A simple tip is to choose the colours that compliment the colour theme of your wedding. For example, if your wedding colours are purple and white, the obvious choice is purple and white flowers, but how about adding a splash of pink as well? A wedding I attended several years ago had red as the main colour. The bride wore an ivory gown and carried a bouquet of red roses. Her five bridesmaids wore red gowns and carried ivory roses. The reception was decorated in red and silver. It looked vibrant and absolutely stunning.

3. Add foliage to enhance the beauty of the flowers: Greenery adds more interest and depth to flowers. Some foliage added in with the flowers can add natural beauty, and allow the flowers to stand out more.

Flowers for your wedding include the bridal bouquet, bouquets for bridesmaids and flower girls, corsages for the parents and immediate family. For the church, floral arrangements for the altar and at the end of each pew create an inviting ambiance. At the reception, large arrangements at the foyer can create a welcoming entrance for your guests. Table centrepieces add beauty and elegance to each table.

Flowers truly bring romance to weddings. They are the final touch that will make your big day unforgettable.

What colours / flowers did you have for your wedding? Or for your upcoming wedding? I’d love to hear from you!

The 5 must-have bridal accessories for your big day

So you’ve got the gown, and it’s absolutely divine. WAIT! You’re not ready to walk down the aisle just yet!

There are five absolutely must-have accessories that you will need to complete your look as the bride. I’m not including your bouquet, as this is technically not an accessory. These five items will really help you shine on your big day.

Starlight veil by Wedding Veils Australia

Starlight veil by Wedding Veils Australia

1. THE VEIL: A bride truly looks like a bride when she is wearing a veil.

In my many years of experience with brides, the oohs and aahs always came after the veil was placed in the bride’s hair. There are so many veil designs to choose from, and the main thing to consider is that the veil needs to compliment the dress. There’s no point wearing a veil that does not work with the dress.

If your dress has beading on it, why not wear a veil with beaded edges, such as the Starlight veil by Wedding Veils Australia.

Whether it’s short or long, the veil really is the defining bridal accessory.

 

 

 

 

 

2. THE HEADPIECE OR HAIR ACCESSORY: There are many options to choose from here, such as crystal beaded hair combs, sparkly tiaras and fascinators. The key is deciding on the look you are going for.

A popular choice is a crystal hair comb which is worn on the side of the head, beside the veil. For example, the Stardust Diamonte and Crystal comb by Wedding Veils Australia, is a charming and very sparkly crystal comb. Very complimentary with most veils.

Stardust Diamonte and Crystal comb

Stardust diamonte and crystal comb by Wedding Veils Australia

Other hair accessories include fascinators, headbands, tiaras and sparkly hair pins. Choose a hair accessory that compliments the design features of your dress.

 

 

 

 

 

3. THE NECKLACE: A stunning necklace frames your decolletage and adds a beautiful sparkle. Crystals, diamontes, pearls or if you can afford the real thing – diamonds, freshwater pearls, or a range of other precious gemstones can add the most alluring look to your bridal gown.

Swarovski crystal and pearl necklace from Handmade by Diana

Swarovski crystal and pearl necklace from Handmade by Diana

Bridal jewellery can be dainty and delicate, or bold and brassy. The choice is yours, but make sure you choose something that won’t overpower your dress.

If your dress is simple and uncluttered, you can afford to choose a bold necklace, which will make a statement. For a more embellished or heavily beaded gown, choose a delicate or simple necklace.

 

 

 

 

4. THE EARRINGS: Next choose your earrings. Ideally these should compliment your necklace. Some jewellery stores sell necklace and earring sets, which is a great option. However if the necklace you choose does not have matching earrings, choose some with similar elements in them.

Swarovski crystal and pearl earrings from Handmade by Diana

Swarovski crystal and pearl earrings from Handmade by Diana

For example, the Swarovski crystal and pearl necklace from Handmade by Diana is beautifully complimented by these earrings, also by the same designer.

 

 

5. THE SHOES: Last but certainly not least, are the shoes. Again there are many options to choose from, but remember that your wedding shoes should compliment your dress.

Wedding shoes should be appropriate to the season of your wedding. For example, if your wedding is in summer, then open-toed shoes or sandals would be a good choice. In winter, choose closed shoes or open toed shoes if you fancy.

Shoes are the perfect finishing touch to your dress. When choosing wedding shoes, keep in mind that they should be comfortable as well as stylish. Remember you will be wearing them for at least eight hours or so, and the last thing you want on your wedding day is to have aching feet.

Crystal open-toed wedding shoes

Crystal open-toed wedding shoes

To accessorize your bridal gown perfectly, keep this tip in mind:

Simple gown – bold accessories; Embellished or detailed gown – simple accessories.

Now you’re almost ready to walk down the aisle! :)

 

The White Wedding Dress exhibition: a report

Designed by Hardie Amies for the Cotton Board

Cotton organdie wedding dress 1953

On Saturday 5th November, I had the opportunity to visit the Bendigo Art Gallery and see the exhibition of “The White Wedding Dress: 200 years of bridal fashion”. It was a breathtaking exhibition of bridal gowns, spanning the last 200 years.

Most of the gowns were displayed in glass cabinets, obviously to protect them. Going through the maze of rooms in which the exhibition was held, I was amazed to see just how much bridal fashion has indeed changed over the years.

In the 1800′s and upto the early 1900′s, wedding dresses were worn again and again after the wedding, often to special occasions as well as for attending church on Sundays. The wedding dress was of course seen as a special dress, but practicality meant that it needed to be worn again. This is in stark contrast to the wedding dress of today, which is seen as the most supreme gown a woman will ever wear, and is treasured in a special box or cover, unlikely to be worn again.

Wedding dresses worn by the upper class were often made of silk, and embellished with embroidery and hand beading. They had very corseted bodices which were cinched in at the waist, to quite unnatural proportions. Usually the gowns were hand sewn, and only the upper class could afford to have such gowns. For the middle and lower classes, wedding dresses were often made of cotton, and resembled sun dresses, more so than wedding dresses.

It was imperative that the bride’s face was covered during the wedding ceremony, thus the veil was a crucial part of a bride’s outfit. Veils for brides were almost always embellished with hand embroidered motifs or lace, and these were sometimes beaded. Interestingly, veils were always long, often trailing behind the bride.

Around the 1920′s, women’s fashion was radically changing, and along with this, so was bridal fashion. Gowns became less structured, as the corset was tossed away. Sheath gowns became popular as women wanted to demonstrate their new-found freedom from corsets.

In 1947, fashion designer Christian Dior reinvented the hour glass silhouette, which again changed bridal fashion. By the 1950′s bridal fashion was well and truly established as a trend of its own. Newspapers would report on society weddings in great detail, which was of tremendous interest to the people. Royal weddings were of world-wide interest, just as they are today.

In the 1960′s wedding dresses had fitted bodices, with a full skirt, just below the knee. There were few embellishments, perhaps just on the neckline or hemline. Veils became short and bouffant, often just below the shoulders.

As the decades passed, hemlines were raised, and then fell again. Sleeves became exaggerated, and then streamlined. Skirts became voluminous, and then slim again.

The wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Diana in 1981 set the course of bridal fashion for the rest of the decade. It wasn’t until the early 1990′s that bridal fashion began to change once again.

I particularly enjoyed the final room of the exhibition, which showcased Australian bridal fashion. The mannequins in this room were on stands, not in glass cabinets, so I was able to see the gown details a bit better. There were several gowns on display from notable Australian designers. Their gowns were equally as impressive as the French and English gowns.

Seeing the transition of the wedding dress from being just a dress, to being “the dress” that a woman will wear on her wedding day and be remembered in, was truly a journey through history.

 

 

“Cherish the Dress” – what’s it about?

Heard of “Trash the Dress”? The concept where brides have photos done in which the wedding dress is completely ruined in a muddy pond or sandy beach? I find this concept quite troubling, and can’t understand how a gown costing thousands of dollars can be totally disrespected in that way.

Well some very innovative photographers have come up with a totally different concept, called “Cherish the Dress”. Now that’s more like it! This is an opportunity to have a post-wedding photo shoot done, where you get dressed up in your wedding dress, have your make up done and hair styled, just like on your wedding day (or differently, if you like!) and along with your husband, go to locations which you didn’t have time for on your big day.

Why not take the opportunity to wear your wedding dress again on your first anniversary, and have some breathtaking photos taken in different locations? If you’ve always dreamed of having beach photos, but it didn’t suit the theme of your wedding, or the weather wasn’t right on the day, this is your opportunity to have those photos done. You could go to a winery, a golf course, a pretty meadow, a mountain top, or any other location you fancy. Beautiful indoor locations can provide fabulous backdrops for your photos as well.

Photographer Chris Hanley from the UK, came up with this concept, and other photographers are also offering this service. What a brilliant idea!

Bride in meadow, photo by Mike Thrussell

Bride in meadow, photo by Mike Thrussell

 

Wedding shoes: which colours match best?

Bride holding her wedding shoes

Bride holding her wedding shoes

When shopping for wedding shoes, brides are often unsure of colour matching shoes to their dress. If your dress is white, then it’s a no-brainer – go for white shoes. But what if your dress is ivory, champagne, or another shimmering shade?

The best thing to do in this case is to take a fabric swatch of your dress with you when shoe shopping.

Place the swatch next to the shoes you like, and see if the colours work well together.

You don’t need to find an exact colour match. The idea is to find one that compliments your dress colour.

Surprisingly, white shoes often match well with ivory gowns. This is because the shoe paint is usually off white, not a stark white. If your gown is a more creamy shade of ivory or champagne, then ivory or cream coloured shoes may match well.

For other gown colours such as latte, oyster or blush pink, shoe colours such as silver or champagne may work well.

Another dilemma is whether to buy closed shoes, open toed shoes, or strappy sandals for your wedding day. This is largely a matter of personal taste. But as a general guide, remember that strappy sandals can be painful to wear after a few hours, and you will be wearing your wedding shoes for at least 8 hours or so.

Your shoes should be appropriate for the season, and this is usually the best guide. So if your nuptials will be in the summer months, then strappy sandals or open toed shoes would be quite suitable. For a winter wedding, closed shoes are the most suitable.

A great tip is to have a secondary pair of shoes (or slippers!) to wear for the reception. This will work if your wedding gown is full length and your toes are barely visible, so nobody will notice that you have changed shoes.

Wedding shoes can be dreamy, sparkly, romantic or elegant, but whatever you choose, make sure they fit well, and make you feel like a princess on your Big day.

Stylish wedding shoes by Nina Renee Designs

Stylish wedding shoes by Nina Renee Designs